What is the reason for the loss of love after marriage?

✅ 1. Negative factors (which weaken the relationship)

🔹 1.1 Clash of expectations and reality

The reality after marriage is often different from the way one imagines seeing each other before marriage.  
 

 

Examples:

• He used to spend time in love,  now in a busy office or family.
• Earlier we used to talk about love every day, now it is limited to  "love off course".

🔹 1.2 "Catching up" each other

After marriage, many people think, "Now she is mine", so the effort is reduced.
Where in the past,  they used to talk, dress up,  surprise  – now all the "novelty" fades away.

🔹 1.3 Unspeakable suffering accumulation

Minor pride, sadness, misunderstandings – if you don't say them, they are buried inside, slowly creating distance.
Examples:

• The wife understands the pressure of work, but does not say that she has suffered.
• The husband thinks "he will understand", so he does not share his tension.

🔹 1.4 Changes in physical distancing / habits

Many times, the physical intimacy decreases and the mental distance increases.
Or,  there is a change in interest in each other  – even if it's normal, denial is problematic.

🔹 1.5 External pressures (money, family, children)

Money problems, in-laws' problems,  child-rearing  troubles – these often occupy the place of love.

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✅ 2. Positive factors (there is love, but the appearance changes)

🔹 2.1 The type of love changes

Love before or early in marriage is either romantic or  exciting, after marriage it is responsible and  reliable.

Examples:

• Earlier he used to say "love" 10 times a day, now he gets up in the morning and makes tea – this is love.
• Earlier, he used to give sudden gifts, now he says with the doctor's serial, "I need your health".

🔹 2.2 The  "trust"  of each other increases so much that the expression is less

We  talk less in front of the people we think are closest because  we know "he will understand".
But that's where it's wrong  — it needs to be said.

🔹 2.3 Become a habit

Love still exists, but it doesn't  become "the euphoria of first love" or "the silent bond of every day."

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✅ 3. All in all— what is the solution or what to do?

🎯 Love does not diminish,  it changes –  the main task is to recognize and nurture it.

🛠️ Some things to do:

1. Remind me – even if it is small.  "When I am with you, I find peace. "
2. Even if you don't have time, talk in silence for 10 minutes. Without a phone.
3. Don't let pride accumulate.  Learn to say, "I feel bad about that."  
4. Make memories –  walk together, cook, take pictures.
5. Give yourself time –  love doesn't last without self-respect.

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🎬 Real Examples (Short Stories)

Mr. X and Mrs. Y – 8 years of marriage. In the past, they used to call each other all the time, now they only talk about urgent matters.
One day Y said, "Don't you love me as before?"
X was silent for a while and said, "When you are by my side at night, I can sleep. Is there anything else in love?"
Then X realized, the language had changed, the feeling was still there.

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🔚 Last Words:

Love  changes with time –  the color changes,  the smell changes.
But if you take care of it, it blooms again as a flower.
 Love doesn't diminish after marriage, it may  be silenced – it has to be awakened again.

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